Oh the things people say

I am sure those of you who have dealt with infertility understand how hurtful words can be. Most people are well intentioned when they offer words of advice but many times they just don't realize how hurtful their word are. How many times can someone tell you to relax?? Really how in the world can someone expect you to relax when you are dealing with the horrible roller coaster ride that is infertility. Stop thinking about it and you will get pregnant. Wow if it was that easy infertility wouldn't be a multi-million dollar business. I have a wonderful friend who says ADOPT and you will get pregnant Yes because that should be the reason you adopt - so you get pregnant.


Then there are those who are intentionally trying to be evil. I was told by a rude and cold woman the other day that she felt infertility was God's way of telling you that you aren't meant to be a parent! It took everything in me not to lay her out. I am not a violent person but boy was she asking for it. I mean who the hell does she think she is saying something like that. I have dedicated my whole life to caring for children and this obnoxious lady is telling me that I am not meant to be a parent?? Instead of hitting her I simply looked at her and said " Apparently you were lucky enough to have never had to deal with the pain of infertility. It was a matter of luck not a matter of you being a more fit person to be a parent. Next time you might want to choose you words a little more carefully!" And walked away because she was not worth another second of my time.

No matter what people say I have to keep in perspective that this is not my fault nor is it in my control. I have to take care of the things that are in my control and that is taking better care of myself in every way. Please share your stories of things that people have said and how you have dealt with them.